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How to Start a Relationship with God

Tom Crandall • Apr 10, 2020

How to Start a Relationship with God

This story is from Chapter 1 of Your Life Speaks

I was eighteen, and I was at a Halloween party wearing the worst costume ever. (Comment below what you think it was.) Sitting in my backyard with a beer in my hand, surrounded by drunk “friends,” I became overwhelmed with a feeling of emptiness. It didn’t make sense to me. I was supposed to be “having fun” like everyone else seemed to be. I thought I had everything I wanted in life. I was a successful athlete at school, popular among my friends, and dating constantly. Still, I could not shake the feeling of worthlessness. It felt like my life didn’t matter. 

My success and happiness felt meaningless. There had to be more to life than just doing whatever felt good and looked good. I took another sip of my beer, looked up towards the sky, and whispered these words to myself: “What am I doing?”

In that moment, something happened in my heart. Even though my decision to change something (anything!) seemed small and insignificant, it started a series of events that would change the course of my entire life.

[ THE FIFTY-YARD JOURNEY ]

After that night, I did the only thing I could think of to try to find something that would give me purpose. I started going to church and reading my Bible.

At first, I tried inviting my friends to come to church with me, but they just laughed and mocked me for “doing the Jesus thing.” That hurt. For much of my life, I had done
whatever I thought other people would like and accept. But what had that done for me? Where did that ever take me? I was starting to realize that living for the approval and acceptance of other people was a path that led to the very lifestyle of hopelessness that I was trying to come out of. So, though I continued to party with my friends on the weekends, I also continued to go to church every weekend without them. Over the next six months, my hunger for God grew steadily. 

Then one Sunday night, the speaker at church closed his talk with an invitation: “If you want more of God, then come up front.” I looked at my dad and said, “I’m going to go down there.” After making what seemed like a fifty-mile journey from the back, I sat down in the front of the church and prayed a simple prayer: “God, I’m here.”

I wasn’t ready for what happened next. I felt the presence of God overshadow and envelop me. I could feel His all-knowing eyes look through my soul as I heard these words: “I’m cleansing you.” His liquid love pierced through every part of me as His all-powerful arms wrapped around
me, making me feel safe, forgiven, and accepted. I was crying so hard that I had snot hanging from my face to the floor as my hot tears flowed. 

I had just met everything I had been looking for—a God outside of time with unending love and forgiveness, who had become more real to me than the carpet I was sitting on. I also knew that though I had been pursuing God for a short time, He had been pursuing me my whole life. 

I got up from the ground with a heart that wanted to please God. Every other opinion that controlled my life died that day. I knew I was alive for one thing—to please the Lord of my life.

My mind shifted from living for this life, to living to please the eternal God, who is completely good. And because God’s opinion of my life now mattered the most, He began to shape the message my life would begin to SPEAK.

I had been what Jesus called Born Again. My old life died with Christ on the cross; my new life had begun.

I began a relationship with God that transformed me and altered the trajectory of my life forever. 

Here are 4 things I learned that you need to know about starting a relationship with God.

               1. God is the pursuer, we are the responder. 
 
We can sum the whole Bible up in these words: 

John 3:16
“For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son.” 

Love is when someone does the highest good for another at the expense of self.

God and His love are revealed in the Person of Jesus Christ.

The Truth about Jesus:
  • Jesus ate with sinners and showed them kindness.
  • Jesus healed all who came to Him with great compassion.
  • Jesus demonstrated power over sickness, demons and destroyed the works of the devil. 
  • God has been pursuing your heart in spite of your shortcomings since the beginning of time.

Action Step:

  • Read about Jesus, or click here to watch the new movie The Chosen.
  • Meditate for 5 minutes on what Jesus would say to you if he were with you right now.
  • Take 2 minutes and think about how God has been involved in your life, even before you ever looked for Him. Give him thanks for how has he protected, provided and been with you?

               2. Jesus paid the full price for God to come to us.

The price Jesus paid, was for the problem humanity created. Like a Father, he ran to restore us when we couldn’t save our selves.  

Understanding the problem 

God is good and created moral law (The 10 Commandments) which reveals his nature.

  • Do not lie--God is Truth.
  • Do not create an idol--There is only one God.
  • Do not commit adultery--God is faithful.
When we live independently from God we miss the mark of living like He created us, which we have all done. That’s called sin. 

Romans 3:23
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,

Sin separated you from God, but Christ bridged the gap by His own death on the cross to come to you and restore you to glory.

Romans 6:23
For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 5:8
But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

The cross of Christ swallowed your sin and revealed your value. 

Sin had a price tag that someone had to pay in order to ransom back a life taken captive.

The price tag for your soul was the Son of God. You are priceless!  

The Truth about Jesus:
  • Jesus is the revelation of the love of the Father who demonstrated His love by paying humanity’s price for salvation with His own death on the cross.
  • Our sinful nature gets nailed to the cross with Christ, and the Blood of Jesus washes away our sin.
  • He has conquered our hearts with His love, which is why we follow Him.

Action Step:

  • Take 2 minutes and imagine The Lord was sitting with you, what would he say to you about your sin?
  • For 3 minutes, ask him for forgiveness and receive what he did on the cross for you as sufficient payment for your sin; and to silence shame, accusation or guilt. 
  • Receive Jesus into your life as your personal Lord and Savior by giving him thanks. 

               3. Surrender your past, present, and future to the Lord.

The miracle of getting born again comes through the transference of trust, by the grace of God. You transfer trust from yourself to be good enough to save you, to trusting the finished work of the Christ for your full salvation. 

Surrender looks like repentance and trust.

Acts 20:20-21
I kept back nothing that was helpful, but proclaimed it to you...repentance toward God and faith toward our Lord Jesus Christ.

Repentance toward God is turning away from sin and changing the way you think.

Faith toward Jesus is putting your total trust and confidence in who the Bible says he is, and what He has done for you.

Matthew 4:17
From that time Jesus began to preach and to say, “Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.”

Ephesians 2:8-9
For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast.

Romans 10:9-10
That if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation

Action Step:
  • Take time to confess Jesus as Lord of every part of your life.
  • Ask Him if there is anything He wants you to change.
  • Take time to exchange things you haven’t had the power to change, and receive the free gift of grace.

               4. Get connected.

Like red coals burning together in the base of a fire, our lives where meant to burn together with others. No one can live for God alone. We receive strength, comfort, and hope from being with other believers.

Matthew 18:20
For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.”

Hebrew 13:5
For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.

Action Step:
  • Find a group of believers you can do life with.
  • Tell someone what Jesus has done in your life.
  • Thank Him for always being with you
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